If I could write a note to my younger self it would be: “Don’t take it all so personally.You’re wonderful, and if someone else doesn’t see it, let that be their problem, not yours.” Unfortunately, my younger self didn’t get the memo and any type of rejection (especially from the opposite sex) would wreak havoc on my self-esteem.Not a wonderful thing to do, but not a crime either. I won't, especially now that I have an idea how she would react if I did something really wrong. They cordially correspond with a guy, maybe chat on the phone, and decide - as they have every right to - that they don't want to pursue things.Then they get one, two hostile, even hateful, emails from the guy, as though they had broken up after years together. They are both inevitable parts of life that everyone has to deal with.
If I sent a man an email and he didn’t reply to me, I thought, “What doesn’t he like about me? Now, almost two years into my divorce and many dates later, I’ve learned many a wise thing about how to date AND handle rejection.In other words, if a man sees you as funny and engaging, you’ll think you’re funny and engaging.If he thinks you’re physically unattractive and a bore, you’ll find yourself feeling insecure.Online dating over 50 is a petri dish for weird behaviors, a lot of it kind of fascinating.But one of the weirdest behaviors is the phenomenon of people getting their feelings hurt by, and reacting angrily to, people they haven't even met.